I can't say that I'm really surprised that people are postponing having children, having fewer children, refusing to have children at all, or refusing to raise their own children (instead using day-care, nannies, etc.) I think it's terrible, but whenever I turn on the t.v. (which isn't all that often) I can't say that I'm amazed. Just look at the way the media portrays children! It's not that the media alone is responsible for all of the aforementioned trends, but I think it does have a negative influence on the way adults think of children, and the messages it sends to children about what we think of them.
More often than not, children on popular shows or films are portrayed as being bratty, selfish, demanding, inconvenient, and a nuisance. They are represented as some kind of sub-human category, far different from adults, and incapable of reason, maturity, or love.
Then there is the overdone teen-aged character: rude, back-talking, tramp-dressing, high-drama. This exaggerated stereotype was annoyingly present in "Dan In Real Life" where Dan's teenage daughters frequently tell their dad how badly he screws up, and how out-of-touch he is. The day after a minor incident, his daughter won't even say good morning to him. Maybe I was just an angelic teen, but I even when I was very upset with my parents, I didn't treat them with so much contempt, especially over "storms in a teapot."
When I tell people I'm going to teach secondary school I sometimes get the response that I must be crazy because teenagers are so awful. I have to wonder if these people actually know any teenagers, or if their comments are distorted perceptions based on the generalizations that are perpetuated by the media and us as its consumers. I was at a family reunion on my thirteenth birthday, and all day long, relatives I've never met made obnoxious comments to me and my parents. Oh no! Now I was a teenager! As if my Dr. Jekyll was going to morph into Mr. Hyde for the next seven years.
My biggest pet-peeve concerning children and the media is putting child actors in appalling movies- particularly horror flicks or thrillers. Probably the worst of all is the horror film where the creepy, demonic thing is a child. (Think "The Ring" and others.) I haven't actually seen these movies, and I have no intention of ever seeing them. The previews and clips I've seen have been quite enough.
Am I taking things too seriously? I imagine that people who regularly associate with children and adolescents don't give too much credence to these less than accurate depictions, but I don't doubt that it does affect our society. Something to think about while you watch.
1 comment:
Hmm, it seems I have missed a post. It is funny that even fears teens so much, and I do think you are right, the media has a big part in that. I have to admit, I was a terrible teenager. I fought with my mother so much, I shudder to remember it. So although you were not like most teens, I think that a lot of them are not as angelic as they seem when they are around their friends. Really I believe that most of the teen problems are in the home with the family. The teen is trying to assert their independence, and the parents are holding on to their children still, which results in a bit of rebellion. But I think that is a necessasry part of life. The severity of it completely depends upon the parent -child relationship, but I think nearly every teen must go through it at some point in time. How lucky are parents like yours or Jeffrey's whose children never rebelled or gave their parents a moments worry. I am hoping our kids are a lot more like him than me during their teenage years.
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